Lesson 3: Validation Principles that Describe the Population
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A symbol for me who would be seashells. As a small child I was lucky to spend my time with my grandparents in the summer at the beach in Newport Rhode Island. We always collected seashells at the beach and made crafts out of them. We listen to the sea with our ears to the shell. When I saw that seashell today I became sad in a good way missing those times with my grandparents. I also learned to swim with my grandfather. Going on his shoulders and popping up to dive in the ocean. I love the smell of the sea.
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A symbol for me would be my dad’s favorite hat that I kept after his passing. A picture of myself and my family when I was growing up.
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I’m a person that I will be attached to things that I create a memory, When i was younger, every place i been through i will bring with me a small rock as a little symbol of that “place” . When i was a kid i will go anywhere with my babydoll. My parents sometimes tried many times have conversations with me trying to make me understand the doll could go certain places…
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About unresolved issues in my own life. I have hard time to talk about my feeling and emotions, since my young adulthood (teenager). I feel like i will be judge in a negative way, so i Isolate myself in order to protect me. I feel if I do open up, no one will understand. It’s easier for my to isolate my self and keep my emotions and feeling to me. I Ways felts i couldn’t integrate like everyone else in society.
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A symbol was seeing my grandfather’s fisihing pole in my parents’ basement bringing back wonderful memories with him fishing. I could also smell his pipe that he smoked after fishing. Now my husband is using his fishing pole to go fishing with our grandchildren.
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A very personal symbol for me is my son’s first baby blanket given to him by my mother. I look at it often as a reminder of the child I was blessed with, that I wasnt sure I would be able to have.
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Regarding unresolved issues in my own life, I find myself with an inability to say no to many things presented to me. No is a sign of leaving a task or a situation undone or indicating that I am unable to do a task. Instead of setting clear boundaries of what I am willing and not willing to do, or simply, do not have the time or energy to do, I say yes to almost everything. Moments in childhood or young adulthood where I have said no were met with conflict and so I learned to say yes. I imagine that in old old age, if i am trying to resolve this unfinished issue, I might end up saying no to everything! I would likely be labeled as a difficult resident
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Reflecting on the examples presented in the webinars gives me pause for those whom I serve currently, to gain some more understanding of them as a person with a long life journey. I’m joining them on the last part of their journey and have the opportunity to provide some peace and understanding.
For me unresolved issue is always trying to keep the peace and make everyone happy. Letting things go is very hard for me if I feel I didn’t make things better. I believe if I know I tried my best, to let it go. That is hard for me. May stress builds up so I need to make peace wiht myself about not solving everyone problems. I am learning that I can not always make everyone happy and that is ok.